Self-harm is the direct, deliberate act of hurting or injuring your body, but without necessarily wanting to die. It’s a way some people cope with intense or very difficult emotions, or overwhelming situations and life events. Common ways of self-harming include:
Self-harming is not uncommon. If you self-harm you are not weak or crazy or attention-seeking. It just means you are overwhelmed by how you are feeling right now and this is a way you hope will help you feel better. After self-harm you may feel better for a while, but the feeling won’t last long. If you keep self-harming it can make things worse. It could harm your physical or mental health, or damage your relationships with other people. Self-harming behaviours can become addictive and hard to stop. Tell someone what is going on If you self-harm, you may feel embarrassed about it, or worry that other people will judge you or try to make you stop if you tell them about it. Many people who self-harm keep it a secret for this reason. If you’re harming yourself it’s very important to talk to someone you trust. If you don’t want to talk to your health professional or someone you know, you can call a helpline where you will remain completely anonymous, yet be able to talk to someone who understands what you are going through.
Anyone can be at risk of self-harming behaviours, but self-harm is more common in young people. Women are more likely than men to be hospitalised for self-harm.Self-harm can be linked with different kinds of difficult emotions, or overwhelming situations and life events. There is no clear reason why some people self-harm and others do not. It can be connected with difficult experiences including:
If you have seriously injured yourself, taken poisonous substances or overdosed on medicine or medicines, it is important you see a doctor immediately. Call 111 and ask for an ambulance, or go to the emergency department (ED) at your nearest hospital. It’s important to remember that you can seek help to stop self-harming. With support you can learn new ways to cope with your feelings without hurting yourself, even if you have been self-harming for a long time.If you are worried about your immediate safety when you have hurt yourself, or are trying not to hurt yourself, do the following:
When you are ready, the best thing you can do to stop self-harming is to see a doctor or mental health professional. They will listen to you in private, and ask some questions about you and your situation. This is so they can help you and, together, you can develop a plan of action for changing the self-harming behavior and looking at any underlying mental health issues.If you have harmed yourself and are taken to hospital you will be seen by doctors who will help you while you are there. They will refer you to specialist mental health professionals when you leave hospital. The kinds of treatment options that your health professional will discuss with you include: Supportive counselling helps many people who self-harm to understand what the underlying issues are around their behaviours. Talking therapies can help change the thoughts that lead to self-harm. Your doctor will explain which type of talking therapy is most suitable for you.
Your doctor may prescribe antidepressants or other medications if you have an underlying mood disorder. Finding the right medication can be a matter of trial and error – there is no way to predict which will be effective for, and tolerated (have fewer troublesome side effects) by, any one person.If you are breast feeding no medication is entirely safe. Before making any decisions about taking medication at this time you should talk with your doctor about the potential benefits and problems.If you are prescribed medication you are entitled to know:
The term complementary therapy is generally used to indicate therapies and treatments that differ from conventional western medicine and that may be used to complement and support it. Certain complementary therapies may enhance your life and help you to maintain wellbeing. In general, mindfulness, hypnotherapy, yoga, exercise, relaxation, massage, mirimiri and aromatherapy have all been shown to have some effect in alleviating mental distress.
It's really important to look after your physical wellbeing. Your doctor will confidentially treat any injuries you have. They will also talk to you about staying as healthy as you can. This is important because you will cope better mentally if you are physically healthy.
It’s up to you to decide when to stop self-harming. It’s also up to you to decide if and who you want to talk to. Remember though, that it’s a lot easier on yourself if you can find someone you trust to talk things through with. Some other suggestions to help you stop hurting yourself include:
If you've noticed scars, marks, or behaviour that concerns you, but you are not sure whether the person is self-harming, talk to them. Ask them if they would like to talk about what’s going on for them and be patient. Remember they might not want to open up straight away, but letting them know you are there for them is a big help. Show them you care, and that you are concerned.
Many people who self-harm will try to keep it a secret. Although there can be obvious signs, such as exposed cuts or burns, or attempts at overdosing, many signs are less obvious.They can include:
Many young people who think about self-harm have experience of depression, so it’s important to recognise the signs of depression in teens:
Teenagers at risk of depression and suicide include those with family members who have depression, those in an unhappy family environment and those who drink excessive amounts of alcohol. Aggressive, impulsive boys, especially loners, are at risk, as are some very high-achievers who may be under pressure to do even better.
If someone tells you they are self-harming or they want to hurt themselves, take them very seriously.
To support someone trying to stop self-harming, it’s important to identify the support they need, and also the support you need to be a source of strength for them. Know that you can’t do everything, and you don’t need to deal with this by yourself – remember it’s ok to ask for help.
Remember to take care of yourself when you are caring for others.
It’s important to involve others to help you and the person you're supporting – don't try to do everything yourself. To build a support network:
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